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By choice or by inadvertant stupidy - you pick.
I don't even really have a choice at this point because Chris still hasn't put Grayson's crib together since we moved to the new house. In October.
The fantasy of co-sleeping
Sweet soft sighs and snuggles
hands entwined
always a closeness
relishing in that fresh bathed smell
protection and safety
whispered songs
Not even fluffy kittens and puppy breath can beat this
REALITY
knees in the kidney
30 minutes of middle of the night whining or crying or both
early bedtimes
a head butts
leaky diapers on your back
sleeping with your elbow on the nightstand to help hold your head on the 6cm of mattress you have left
I do love some of the fantasy like last night I sang twinkle twinkle little star to Grayson and he replied with a "yay" then I buried my nose in the back of his head.
And then he did a half whine / cry at 12:30 and 3:30.
Obviously he needs his own space if he's trying to literally kick me out of bed.
I'm so over co-sleeping. mostly. kinda.
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I am so there with you! We "co-sleep" to a degree. She sleeps in her crib until between 3-5 a.m. and then gets in bed with us. Lately though it's not so puppies and rainbows blissful. She ninja kicks, hogs the pillow and prefers to sleep diagonally across the bed. I'm thinking it's time for us to get her in her own bed full-time. Wish us luck!
Grant isn't in to us that much. He slept in the bassinet/pack n'play for awhile and then pretty much told us he wanted his own room by sleeping through the night in his crib the first night we put him in it when he was like 6 months old I think? He hasn't looked back. I can barely get him to sit next to me on the sofa. Sigh. You make it sound dreamy, knees in the kidneys and all. Although I am totally happy to not panic about leaking through diapers at night!
BTW, I adore the pictures in your header! So cute!
Cute post! Yep...I guess time for you to start sleeping in the toddler bed....I'm afraid Grayson isn't going to give up all of his space in that nice king size bed!
Oh my....beat up kidneys don't sound fun.
While I love, love, love the fact that Ethan loves his toddler bed, there are things I miss from way back when...you know....when I used to take naps with him because I was the only one he'd sleep with. Ethan wouldn't sleep with me these days if I begged him!
There's pros and cons to both, I think.
I have the exact same feelings. I do love cuddling them but we both sleep better if we don't. :(
You're cuh-razy... I can't belive you're still doing that. I can see the appeal, I tried it... once. It was miserable, and the dog was mad that she lost her spot. And what about all the fun stuff that's supposed to happen there???
If Natalee would cuddle with me all night, or even just for a few minutes each night, I would probably consider it, but she is all about her own space.
okay i have co slept with all my kids... when the third one was being born my husband put his foot down and said the other two had to go.... LOL.. but the baby is kind of with me now.. he falls asleep in his bed but i always wake up with him.... i loved it...uh hubby not so much.....lol
what do you mean leaky diapers on your back?
what do you mean!!!!!!
also. that was a rhetorical question. because i really don't want to know.
Ugh. The reality always comes crashing down on the fantasy and squashes it. And then farts in your face.
It's a pretty sweet arrangement in the baby stage because they stay where you put them. Then they get bigger, stronger and more mobile. When Gia is sick and sleeps with us, she takes up the whole bed...and has a pretty mean elbow jab. Right now I'm co-sleeping with Renzo and its tough having to go to bed right after Gia does. There is no time to get anything done, or spend any time with Neil. Right now, Renzo won't have it any other way...but besides the sleepless nights, there is that moment right before everyone gets up and I get to enjoy the peace of watching my son asleep next to me. And that moment, that quiet that comes over me is what makes it worth all the other hardships. I also remind myself that in the blink of an eye he will be a teenager staying out late, doing who knows what, while I lay awake worrying and wishing he were safe, asleep beside me, a baby once again. But yeah, co-sleeping IS tough...even when they are as cute as Grayson.
I feel ya. I got leaked on last night...twice!
We co-sleep and Sidney has her own toddler bed in our room beside our bed. I just can't bear the thought of her being all the way across the house every night. It kills me!
That being said I really look forward to the day when I'm comfortable with Sidney sleeping in her own room.
Build him a big boy bed, if he uses it great, if not? it's there.
I let my 4 year old sleep with me when my husband is out of town. I love it. I love hearing her slow breathing as she sleeps.
It's when my husband's home that it gets difficult. The bed is not made for three people, and I can't kick Hubby to the sofa!
So the whining and crying @ 3 am are not nightmares? How about mine tries to get out of our bed and run @ that time? My husband is a wuzz...he loves the co-sleeping... but of course, he turns his back and is out in 2 seconds...and only a fire truck siren IN our bedroom could actually wake him up! I for one, am so over it too!
my daughter is still co-sleeping with her two year old son and still breast feeding. the co -sleeping makes feeding easier as she doesn't have to get out of bed. her and her husband have pushed two double beds together so they have plenty of room for the three of them in the bed. we joked that he will still be breast fed and co-sleeping when he is an adult but it suits their family and thats the main thing.
if you feel comfortable co-sleeping keep it up. saves having to get out of bed to check on your son when he calls out in the middle of the night.
We are in the middle of one of the greatest stretches of sleep in recent memory. Braden has been sleeping thru the night until we go and wake him up in the morning. The ugly reality of any type of sleeping is waking in the night or crying out or something else. Sleeping is tough.
Ren and I were totally over co-sleeping (19 months) but couldn't get Acey to sleep in her crib. When I had my 2nd surgery, my mom brought the girls to her house and over 5 nights, Acey became receptive to sleeping in her crib. No dramatic sleep-training or CIO or anything. She just did it. I am now getting 7-8 hours of a kid-free bed every night. Halle-frickin-lujah!
We'll see what happens when we finally go home next month...hopefully this won't be a Grandma special!
My Hubby was away this week, so I let 1 boy sleep with me each night. At 7 & 10 years old, I can confirm that they STILL kick in the night.
I agree - it is bittersweet.
We co-slept when I was nursing (up to 6 months with one and 15 months with another) and then I kicked them to the curb, err, the crib. But I really am a bitch that way. And my best friend co slept with HERS forEVER. But the two oldest are now 12 and 14 and no longer co-sleep. (well, occassionally) It was until they were around 7 or 8, though...but it worked for them!
It is time, get that crib together!
However I do understand loving your baby and having him with you all the time. Try some naps in the crib and see how that goes. I bet you won't do it with your next baby : )
You should skip the crib and go for the big boy bed. Ethan is getting moved to a mattress on the floor tonight because he can almost jump out of his crib and he is on the short side for his age.
Good luck!
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